All love stems from love of self….. And the self is more simple than we’d like to believe. The self is the taboo’d parts we’d rather much just ignore but it’s there and it needs love and affection just like everything else. Yes I’m talking about genital care therapy!
Before you close this post in disgust, or before you pass a rash judgement ask yourself- when was the last time I truly showed my genital area some tender loving care? Valentine’s has passed and the much anticipated love filled sex has cum and it has gone. Does the loving stop? Does the genital area care cease? Does the care filled attention given stop giving- no! This weekend if done right and with conscientious effort is not so much about the other as it is about you being your best at all times. Acknowledging what makes you shine and doing more of it, most times it’s just you taking care of you- entirely. So for those who love to have a hair free care free zone here’s a quick trick of the trade to keeping the Netherlands easy and breezy:
1) Comb through to make sure all knots and kinks are out
2) Trim hair to the lowest possible level
3) Using aloe Vera gel lather the area
4) Using clean new shaving stick- mow the lawn
5) Post trim care- rub tea tree oil on shaved area to prevent razor bumps and in grown hair.
6) Soothe area with remaining aloe Vera and or coconut oil. Let it breathe easy.
It is drawing nigh, yes ladies and gents- Valentines day. Not to be mistaken for Valentimes which is an entirely other thing that has little to do with what i’m talking about- Valentines day.
So if you’re newly enamored with someone other than yourself and or immediate family members- you are in a relationship! So here’s the nitty gritty about that, these socially constructed holidays were created by the capitalist with your pockets in mind, and nothing to do with your heart….So being the true rebel that I am it is only fitting that I share how you too, can partake in the festivities but on a budget- and here comes the good stuff.
So you’re spending your first Valentines day boo’d up or maybe it’s your 10th…and if you’re realllly lucky you’ve lost track but you are sure you’re spending it with your best friend, your love. But still you’re all like eff this- i’m not spending a grip for this bum ass day anyways….. Well here are some tips, tricks, and new things that can be done to spruce up your day with out even hurting your pocket.
Women this one is for you
Its a well known self esteem booster that for one to feel good we have to treat ourselves good- and something simple and meaningful such as using a new fragrance can do the trick. And it doesn’t have to be that pricy eau de fu fu kind either. You can use essential oils diluted in a light carrier oil eg. Sweet almond oil and dab it behind the ear and pulse points of the wrist- not smelling overbearingly whorish.
Men this goes for you as well….
Feeling good is paramount to how one treats themselves. So treat your good-looking self good, dude. Same procedure; try a new fragrance such as Egyptian musk with a hint of dragon blood diluted with sweet almond oil and use it sparingly on your pulse points, your beard even. Shake it up and watch worlds collide.
Next up- another self pampering give away-
A pre date au naturale facial mask- using just aloe vera on the face to moisturize and give an impeccable glow. Even if you are going to wear make up treat your skin with the love it deserves. This can be applied to both men and women as we are both equally yolked in skin.
So- we are chilling keeping it low-key.
Some where during this sordid love fest day- food has to be eaten. Be bold and daring, find a new recipe you’ve been eyeing for a while and get to work. Put your heart into it….Eg. Home-made Roti with chow and just because you can- sorrel. Let your mate know how much you appreciate them with a glass of sorrel and it ain’t even christmas. Every great meal culminates with desert 😉 something as simple as a maple syrup drizzled fruit salad with fruits pre- soaked in wine or rum with flakes of nutmeg. It doesn’t have to be all the way fancy, but again so long as it’s from the heart and made with smiles and pure goodness of the heart- it cyan go wrong. Trying something new never gets old.
For those who are more expressive through art-
Let your muse know that they have been your source of inspiration by dedicating a piece of your prose to them, or whatever your craft may be. Create with them in mind- This too is a surefire way to create lasting memories…….
Celebrate and add to the net value of the universe- Love always!!
Success is said to be the defining moment when we get back up after a fall and the willingness to continue onwards- though it is easier said than done, it begins in the mind. The way in which we think fashion and forms the way we move. Our actions are our thoughts coming to life- with that being said if you start thinking and believing that you are indeed a a winner, despite the stumbles and falls- victory is in you. All you have to do is think it. Walk like a champion, talk like a champion
No need to divulge much, especially when much of it only is in your head and not in the real world- if you want it to happen you have to make it happen. Not only follow the drum but be willing to make the noise. Your own beat and even if you are the only one dancing- Dance!
Being at the bottom really makes you appreciate the daydreams of reaching the top. It propels you forward into action. To actually take the first step to achieving the goals you are to afraid of meeting. The climb up to the top of the fall or even the roller coaster ride is one unexplained feeling, one that is feared while on it, however, anticipating the builds and copious amounts of adrenaline that over rides the fear and makes it welcoming. You cannot in all that you do, waste a moment to fear. If the threat of fear renders you immobile, all you must do is retreat, never defeated, but learnt, to the bottom and dream, then build the anticipation again. This time learnt.
Time is always of the essence. We make mistakes often when we do not value time, time to build and time to sow, and time to reap. There are formidable mistakes to be made, and learn from. The journey is never easy, to the top. You are faced with harsh truths about yourself, truths that make you want to change, do something different. Saving, and deciding when is the best time is never by you but if in constant communication with God, is always by him. He provides you with the knowledge and provides the way, and time. But first you must be open to the notion that he will allow positive change to take effect.
As I told my Longtime, childhood friend recently, If He brings you to it He will bring you through it. Trust and believe. For He is a God who believes in righteousness. Accept him, Give him Full control of your life and allow for his will to be done, righteously.
Our victory isn’t ours, but our Father’s.
Life is a lot like the production set of a lifetime movie. Minus the scripts and or ratings and audience. And that is the purpose of art, to make you stop and watch, to identify in a communal sense that we are at the end of the day, human.
The words that may come out might hurt and come with repercussions- be honest always and be mindful of the words you spew. Life is too short to spend saying sorry, and the value diminished into a nothingness that ink won’t bother to bleed for.
There are no scripts, just honest moments.
Right where you left me or I left you rather. Immersed in stillness while doing the most.
As women its vital for our majestic purpose to build and bond with women who can teach and heal each other. Staying within in the confined perimeters of ones comfort zone is the quickest way to kill ones creative spirit and stifle our purpose. We have to, as much as is allowed to bond and feel and love our sisters. We have to be able to heal our mothers and daughters and give the nurturing energy to them. We are all broken pieces wanting the same outcome- Peace. Together we can build on it and make this dream of our heart a reality. We can heal nations through healing our sisters. Sisterhood is a necessary relationship that every woman needs to find them self in. I’ve been blessed with 12 beautiful sisters, and also had the good fortune of going to an all girls school, where not only was I able to form lifelong friendships but I began to understand the nature of our nature as spiritual beings. I’m glad to be a woman, Glad to be alive and Glad that I have sisters!!!!!